Somewhere along the journey—between raising kids, clocking into work, managing households, and being the glue that keeps everyone else together—women start to disappear.

Not to the world, necessarily.
But to the people closest to them.
And sometimes, quietly, to themselves.

We wake up one day and realize our bodies aren’t what they used to be. There are soft places that never used to be soft, tired eyes that tell stories no one’s asked about, and hands that have carried too many grocery bags, cradled too many fevers, and held too much weight—literal and emotional.

The world may not notice the changes.
But we do.
And often, we’re the only ones who do.

There’s a grief that doesn’t always have a name—the kind that settles in when a woman starts to feel unseen in her own relationship. When the love that once felt passionate and protective starts to feel more like an obligation. When the playful, flirty conversations turn into two people coexisting under the same roof, operating more like logistics partners than lovers.

It’s not always dramatic.
Sometimes, it’s as subtle as a shrug.
A dismissive laugh.
A comment that lands wrong but no one bothers to walk it back.
And suddenly, she’s wondering if she’s still someone worth choosing… worth fighting for.

It stings.
When someone you love no longer sees you fully—not because you’ve changed who you are, but because time had the audacity to leave its mark.

And then come the questions:

Is this just what marriage looks like after decades?
Are we supposed to settle for “just coexisting” now?
When did I go from being a prize to a placeholder?

Most women don’t say these things out loud.
Because it sounds selfish.
Because it feels vain.
Because admitting it might mean confronting cracks they hoped weren’t real.

But here’s the truth:
Women deserve to feel seen.
Not for what they used to be.
Not for how they looked at 25 or 35.
But for who they are right now—battle-worn and beautiful, strong and soft, present and powerful.

We don’t need to be put on a pedestal.
But we damn sure shouldn’t be overlooked.

Because no woman should ever feel like the consolation prize in her own life.

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